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Self-Pity Quotes

Quotes warning against self-pity and favoring resilience.

These quotes take a firm stance against self-pity, with more than one speaker describing it as something to actively avoid despite difficult circumstances. A similar call for toughness appears in the Elvis Costello collection.

I've never understood pity and self-pity as an emotion.

Quotes by Randy Pausch

I tell people to monitor their self-pity. Self-pity is very unattractive.

Quotes by Patty Duke

I missed a whole cycle of childhood, but I've never used it as a device for self-pity.

Quotes by James A. Michener

Frequently Asked Questions

What view of self-pity do these quotes share?
They generally treat it as something to avoid or keep in check, rather than a feeling worth indulging.
Does any quote connect this feeling to a difficult childhood?
Yes, one speaker acknowledges a hard early life but says they refused to lean on it as an excuse for feeling sorry for themselves.
Is this feeling described as understandable in these quotes?
One speaker admits difficulty relating to it at all, suggesting some people find the feeling genuinely puzzling rather than natural.
Why do these quotes warn against this feeling?
The recurring message is that dwelling on it is unappealing and worth actively watching for and limiting in oneself.
What related topics pair well with this one?
For more on emotional resilience, see Alien quotes.

One quote goes further, calling the habit unappealing rather than sympathetic, a blunt assessment of how it comes across to others. For related themes on emotional discipline, see Connections or the Alien quotes.